What can I say? I know I am a few days late, couldn’t help it. Was a bit busy But it’s not too late.

I dedicate this post to every woman who gave birth to a child especially to the woman who gave birth to me, who cares

For me, loves me and has been there for me since day NO.1 My Mother, Theresa D’souza.

They say no love is more pure, than a mother’s. No one in the Read the rest of this entry

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Sometimes work schedules stretch mothers and fathers to the breaking point with little time left for the people who matter most: children. Thankfully, spending time with family is more than ticking away the hours of a dull day; it is about quality interaction between parents and children. Even though it may seem like the twenty-four hour day needs to be lengthened, it Read the rest of this entry

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If you’ve been keeping up with my blog posts lately you’ll know I’ve come to adding a few news posts from around the web on this subject. I’ve got a couple more today that are new and updated, so let me know what you think of em…

The power of playtime: It inspires imagination, improves health and …

As soon as a nine month old starts worrying about separation from Read the rest of this entry

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7 Ways To Reduce Divorce Pain On Children

What can parents do to reduce the pain of divorce on children? This is the question that hopefully goes through the mind of families nearing, or in the middle, of a divorce. Separation of parents, and the common bickering associated with divorce, is very difficult on a child. However, there are a number of things you can do as a parent to reduce Read the rest of this entry

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“To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly be broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact, you must give your heart to no one, not even to an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements; lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. Read the rest of this entry

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Loving Children – YouTube – Who will love the children

Is loving our children innate or learned behaviour? what are the psychological reasons for loving our children?

Are there any biological reasons also behind loving our kids?

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The Courage to Be a Loving Parent
 by: Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Most of us really don’t like it when someone is angry at us. We don’t like it when people go into resistance to helping us when we need help, instead of caring about us. We don’t like it when people withdraw from us, disconnecting from us and shutting us out. We don’t like it when people make demands on us and do not respect our right or need to say no. Many of us will do almost anything to avoid the soul loneliness and pain we feel when people treat us in angry, resistant, demanding and uncaring ways.

It takes great courage to stay loving to ourselves and others when faced with others’ angry and closed behavior. It especially take courage when the people we are dealing with are our own children. Yet unless we have the courage to come up against our children’s anger, resistance, and withdrawal, we will give ourselves up and not take care of ourselves to avoid their uncaring reactions. The more we deny our own truth and our own needs and feelings, the more our children will disrespect and discount us. Our children become a mirror of our own behavior, discounting us when we discount ourselves, disrespecting us when we disrespect ourselves. The more we give ourselves up to avoid our children’s unloving behavior toward us, the more we become objectified as the all-giving and loving parent who doesn’t need anything for ourselves. When we do this, we are role-modeling being a caretaker.

On the other hand, it is unloving to ourselves and our children to expect our children to take responsibility for our well-being. It is unloving to demand that our children give themselves up to prove their love for us and to pacify our fears. It is unloving to demand that they be the way we want them to be rather than who they are. It is unloving to set limits just to make us feel safe, rather than limits that support their health and safety. When we behave in this way, we are role-modeling being a taker.

The challenge of good parenting is to find the balanced between being there for our children and being there for ourselves, as well as the balance between freedom and responsibility – to be personally responsible to ourselves rather than be a taker or a caretaker.

Our decisions need to be based on what is in the highest good of our children as well as ourselves. If a child wants something that is not in our highest good to give, then it is not loving to give it. If we want something that is not in the highest good of our children, then it is not loving for us to expect it. It is loving to support our children’s freedom to choose what they want and to be themselves, as long as it doesn’t mean giving ourselves up. Children do not learn responsible behavior toward others when their parents discount their own needs and feelings to support what their children want. Our own freedom to choose what we want and to be ourselves needs to be just as important to us as our children’s freedom and desires.

On the other hand, if we always put our needs before our children’s, we are behaving in a self-centered, narcissistic way that limits our children’s freedom. We are training our children to be caretakers, to give themselves up for other’s needs and not consider their own.

The challenge of loving parenting is to role-model behavior that is personally responsible, rather than being a taker or caretaker. This is our best chance for bringing up personally responsible children. However, we need to remember that we can do everything “right” as a parent, but our children are on their own path, their own soul’s journey. They will make their own choices to be loving or unloving, responsible or irresponsible. We can influence their choices, but we can’t control them. They have free will, just as we do, to choose who they want to be each moment of their lives. All we can do is the very best we can to role-model loving, personally responsible behavior – behavior that supports our own and our children’s highest good.

About The Author

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is the best-selling author and co-author of eight books, including “Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By You?” She is the co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding healing process. Learn Inner Bonding now! Visit her web site for a FREE Inner Bonding course: http://www.innerbonding.com or mailto:margaret@innerbonding.com. Phone sessions available.

Some couples love them so much, that they forget which ones are adopted.

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There is a poem about fathers and how they should set

examples. It goes like this;

“A careful man I want to be; a little child is following me. I do

not dare to go astray, for fear they’ll go the self same way. I

cannot escape their watchful eyes, whatever they see me

do, they try. Like me they say they’re going to be the little

child that follows me. They think Read the rest of this entry

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Ok so 3 more posts today that I’ve dug up – I’m an information JUNKIE on this stuff lately. Give em a browse and let me know what ya reckon. They’re just from a few different sites I’ve been surfing lately that are generally good for information like this…

Surprise party thrown for 'brilliant' mum

LOVING mum Pat Frendo got a big surprise last weekend when a Read the rest of this entry

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Hey Parents here’s some good stuff I have come across, from a few different blogs around the web which I wanted to share with you. CSee them below…

Are you a working mom? Learn how to deal with working mom guilt

Ever hear the saying ‘children spell love, TlME? Although it can be true, it only works if the time is joyful and loving. An entire day spent with an …   Read More…

Movers & Shakers: George & Maylee Thomas Fuller

Sharing the world of guitars with our community, and its children, is fulfilling, especially on the teaching side. Q: George made a strong run for the mayor …   Read More…

The Dumbest Thing Ever

Religion. Religion was meant to facilitate man’s inborn curiosity and discovery of God. Different men with different capacities find God via different avenues, thus One God with many names.

Do you think for a second that GOD – THE GOD – Creator of All Humans, and everything else, cares more for Those Humans than These Humans? Were WE created in some different way by GOD than Them? Is it up to US who chooses which of God’s Creation (His Children) worship, adore, prayerfully ask Him in a correct manner?

I never heard of Mohammed or Jehovah in my early days; plenty of Mohammedans never heard of Jesus. But we all know God was/is before all humans. So how can we hate any other of His children who simply speak their own language in worship? How can a man with a feminine vocal pattern be condemned, how can a woman who shows her face or talks to other humans never know God?

They do know God, just as well as YOU. Only GOD can judge what he has created. Man has no right. If you believe in GOD than you must trust in his motivation to create us all in Her/His/Its Way. We are the creatures all of the Creator, whatever It is. Do you think It chooses one over the other?

Who are You/We to judge anything in our ignorance?

Leave that to GOD, which created us.

And love each other – take care of each other. If one was created by God then all were created by God; therefore we are all sisters and brothers. Love and forgive like you love and forgive your brother/sister/father/mother. We are all flawed.

Only God knows why. When you question other humans you question God and God’s Motives. Now YOU are the blasphemer. If God, than God.

Can you explain good or bad? Has God chosen YOU to judge? How arrogant you must be, to believe that of all the billions of humans now living You are Correct – You Speak for God! You can judge for GOD? Be very careful. God was/is before his creatures existed. God doesn’t need your help in this way. He needs you to care, to help and love one another. He needs to use your hands. If God loves us ALL, wouldn’t he want you to help a brother? Or do you think he’d ask you to hate and condemn him?

Did God create ME so you can Kill Me? Ignore and Hate Me? ARE you SURE that’s what God the Creator would want, or ask of his children?

Let me ask this one question…If you spoke with God tonight, do you really think he’d ask YOU to judge, and punish, humanity FOR him? No. He’d ask you to care for His Creatures. God cared enough to create you and the world to sustain you. And we are not annihilated by his hand yet.

Tom Salatto is a Wisdom Author and successful Entrepreneur. His weekly column, “Mid-life Musings” has received critical acclaim. He is also owner of Starry Night Entertainment Company (http://www.StarryNiteDJs.com), Author of “God’s Loving Arms (http://www.GodsLovingArms.com), holds a BA in Philosophy and is working toward his Masters Degree. He is a dedicated family man and care-giver.

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