How To Raise Children who Will Love God
I have had people ask me, a number of times, “How on earth can God expect me to love Him more than I love my children, my wife, or myself? It is totally unreasonable and, in my opinion, just cannot be done!”
That sounds like a pretty good question and attitude, and in one way it is. But just bear with me while we look into the matter. I promise you some answers that you can live with if you’ll just keep an open mind. Read the rest of this entry
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The Dumbest Thing Ever
Religion. Religion was meant to facilitate man’s inborn curiosity and discovery of God. Different men with different capacities find God via different avenues, thus One God with many names.
Do you think for a second that GOD – THE GOD – Creator of All Humans, and everything else, cares more for Those Humans than These Humans? Were WE created in some different way by GOD than Them? Is it up to US who chooses which of God’s Creation (His Children) worship, adore, prayerfully ask Him in a correct manner?
I never heard of Mohammed or Jehovah in my early days; plenty of Mohammedans never heard of Jesus. But we all know God was/is before all humans. So how can we hate any other of His children who simply speak their own language in worship? How can a man with a feminine vocal pattern be condemned, how can a woman who shows her face or talks to other humans never know God?
They do know God, just as well as YOU. Only GOD can judge what he has created. Man has no right. If you believe in GOD than you must trust in his motivation to create us all in Her/His/Its Way. We are the creatures all of the Creator, whatever It is. Do you think It chooses one over the other?
Who are You/We to judge anything in our ignorance?
Leave that to GOD, which created us.
And love each other – take care of each other. If one was created by God then all were created by God; therefore we are all sisters and brothers. Love and forgive like you love and forgive your brother/sister/father/mother. We are all flawed.
Only God knows why. When you question other humans you question God and God’s Motives. Now YOU are the blasphemer. If God, than God.
Can you explain good or bad? Has God chosen YOU to judge? How arrogant you must be, to believe that of all the billions of humans now living You are Correct – You Speak for God! You can judge for GOD? Be very careful. God was/is before his creatures existed. God doesn’t need your help in this way. He needs you to care, to help and love one another. He needs to use your hands. If God loves us ALL, wouldn’t he want you to help a brother? Or do you think he’d ask you to hate and condemn him?
Did God create ME so you can Kill Me? Ignore and Hate Me? ARE you SURE that’s what God the Creator would want, or ask of his children?
Let me ask this one question…If you spoke with God tonight, do you really think he’d ask YOU to judge, and punish, humanity FOR him? No. He’d ask you to care for His Creatures. God cared enough to create you and the world to sustain you. And we are not annihilated by his hand yet.
Tom Salatto is a Wisdom Author and successful Entrepreneur. His weekly column, “Mid-life Musings” has received critical acclaim. He is also owner of Starry Night Entertainment Company (http://www.StarryNiteDJs.com), Author of “God’s Loving Arms (http://www.GodsLovingArms.com), holds a BA in Philosophy and is working toward his Masters Degree. He is a dedicated family man and care-giver.
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Think about this for a moment: Is it really possible to love your children without loving yourself, or to love yourself without loving your children?
The answer is no.
If you are ignoring yourself to take care of your children, this is not loving to your children or to yourself. While being there for your children is very important, it is equally important to role model for them what it is like to take responsibility for your own well-being. If you take care of your children but do not take care of your own feelings and needs, they will not learn how to take responsibility for their feelings and needs. They will grow up either expecting someone else to take care of them, or they will care-take others while ignoring themselves – just as you do.
On the other hand, if you are narcissistic and just attend to what you want, ignoring your children’s feelings and needs, you are not being loving to yourself or your children. You cannot possibly end up feeling worthy and valuable within yourself when you are self-centered and ignore your children’s needs.
If you are approving of your children but judgmental toward yourself, your children will likely learn to be judgmental toward themselves. You are their role model, and they will likely learn to do what you do. If you treat them well but treat yourself badly, there is a good possibility that they will learn to treat themselves badly, no matter how loving you are with them.
If you want to be a loving parent with your children, it is essential that you also learn to be a loving parent with yourself. This does not mean that you ignore your children’s needs in favor or your own, or vise versa. What it does mean is that you learn to create a balance between taking care of them and taking care of yourself. While this is not always possible, especially with infants, it is certainly a goal to aim for.
This may mean that they don’t always get what they want just when they want it – once they are old enough to play by themselves. It means that sometimes you say to them things like:
“I need some time alone for myself now and you need to play by yourself for awhile.”
“We (you and your spouse) need some time alone together right now so you need to find something to do.”
“I’m on the phone and this is important to me. What you want will have to wait.”
“Daddy and I (or Mommy and I) are talking about something that is important to us. Please don’t interrupt us right now.”
“I need to go to sleep early tonight because I have to get up early for an important appointment, so please do not make noise and wake me up.”
As a parent, you need to learn to respect your own feelings and needs as well as theirs. By honoring your feelings and needs as well as theirs, they will learn to take responsibility for their own feelings and needs while also respecting and honoring others’ feelings and needs.
Many people have been taught that taking care of their own feelings and needs is selfish – that they should just be there for others. This is a false definition of selfish. We are being selfish when we expect others to give themselves up for us. We are being self-responsible when lovingly take care of ourselves while also caring about others.
You serve your children well when you learn to stay tuned into to their feelings and needs as well as your own. You have a good chance of raising caring and personally responsible children when you learn to care about yourself while taking loving care of them.
About The Author
Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is the best-selling author and co-author of eight books, including “Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By You? and “Healing Your Aloneness.”
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